The Quick Scan by Mike Ramey




     Continuing from my last column for the men in the house, the first secret to having a solid relationship is to start with God through Jesus Christ.  The KJV Scriptures are a wealth of wisdom and information.  Not only will the Bible tell you the type of people to meet…it will ALSO tell you the types of people to avoid at all costs.  If YOU are a Christian man, brother, a Christian woman is whom you should marry.  In fact, a Christian man should not even bother to date non-Christian women.  It will save you a LOT in the way of headaches on earth, and in the heavenlies.  Remember Samson and Delilah.

      Always aim for God’s perfection in building solid relationships. He’s all in.  Are you?

      Here are some of my dating suggestions for you ‘Millies’ (Millennials), ‘Zippies’ (Generation Z) or even some of you P-School Rangers out there.  This will save you a LOT of grief IF you realize brothers that YOU are a man, and God expects you to carry yourself as an upright man.  A leader.  One who has invested in his character—and it shows.  Social media ONLY goes so far, and it is NOT reality; it is a manipulation causing confusion and mistrust between the sexes.

      *Men LEAD; Women FOLLOW.  Open her door.  Treat her like a lady! No Booze!

     *IF she always wants to fight you and likes to cuss you—she is NOT for you!  WALK!

     *Brother, YOU pick up the check when you take her out. You ASKED her, remember?

     *Brother, LISTEN and OBSERVE everything she does when she is with you.

     *Lastly, save the sex for marriage---a real woman WILL respect you for this!

      Another point I want to add is that you two should talk, talk, TALK until you feel you understand your sweetheart or steady.  Pray for her (yep, THAT is why you should be a Christian) and have her pray for you (which is why SHE should be a Christian)!  Dealbreakers at this stage of the game?  Denominational differences and unbiblical expectations regarding relationships.  Another dealbreaker?  How does she treat the men in her family—including Dad.  Also, how does her mother treat her husband and what does she say about the men in her family?  Too many brothers get hurt down the road because they didn’t LISTEN and OBSERVE her!

      Let me say this: Brother you will KNOW that she is marriage material, and, when that time comes you will know when and how to ask.  Don’t let her ‘buddies’ and ‘besties’ try to push you to the altar.  SHE does NOT ask for YOUR hand in marriage.  The KJV Bible makes it clear who does the asking—and it AIN’T her.  IF she accepts your proposal, then you and she need to register for pre-marital counseling through YOUR church!  Why?  IF your future wife will not follow you to your Pastor, it is a sure indication that she will not follow your lead in marriage.

      Mike Ramey is a Retired Minister, KJV Bible Teacher, syndicated columnist and Bible Prophecy Specialist who lives in Indianapolis, Indiana.  “The Quick Scan” is one of a variety of his columns appearing and abounding in print and cyberspace, written from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective since 1996.  To drop him a line—or a whine—the address is still the same:  ©2023 Barnstorm Communications International.

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Ramey is married and resides in Indianapolis, Indiana. He is a Christian, an Ordained Minister and KJV Bible Teacher. Since the 1980s, Ramey has won--or helped to win--multiple journalism awards and citations (including 3 CASPER awards). He holds a Police Citation for Citizen Bravery from the Indianapolis Police Department (1986) presented by the late Mayor William H. Hudnut III, and an award as ‘Best New Internet Writer’ (2003) “Black Men In” from Mr. Gary Johnson, Publisher.

His career also includes serving as an award-winning broadcast reporter, producer and TV/Radio talk show host in the Indianapolis market since 1981. In addition, Ramey has served as staff writer and section editor for The Indianapolis Recorder, and a freelancer for The Indiana Herald. Ramey has also served as a guest Op-Ed writer for The Indianapolis News, a staff writer for The Indianapolis Star, and a freelancer for BOTH The Associated Press and USA Today Newspaper (Gannett).

In business as an Anti-Gang Specialist & Consultant since 2007, Ramey is the Modern Street Gangs Specialist of “The Gang Line”. He has been interviewed in the U.S. and abroad on the dangers of Modern Street Gangs. Ramey is a Certified Modern Street Gang Specialist, with Law Enforcement (2006), Non-Law Enforcement (2010) and Gangs & Cults (2017) certifications, plus endorsements in K-12 Gang Issues (2010) and Transnational Gang Tactics (2010). He has held workshops, trainings and consultations with and for street-level/school-based personnel. He carries Specialist ratings in the area of Cult/Occult Crime, Transnational Human Trafficking and has served as a national/transnational consultant to various faith-based anti-gang ministries.

Ramey has also served as a veteran substitute licensed teacher (1986-2011), a college instructor, a Probation Officer (Intensive/High Risk & School-Based 2001-2007) with the Marion County Juvenile Court and a peer grant reviewer of anti-gang grant programs for the U.S. Department of Justice (2010). He also created, designed and taught the course UM-190 “Modern Street Gangs: Developing Urban Ministry Strategies” in 2009 and 2010 at Crossroads Bible College, Indianapolis, Indiana for those who desired to serve Jesus Christ in an Urban Ministry environment. Ramey also served as a post-production consultant for Chick Publications’ anti-gang comic: “Black Angel”. It had a 2013 national release, with an international Spanish-language version released in 2014.

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