The Quick Scan by Mike Ramey



      It ranks right up there with a woman asking the ‘steady’ man in her life to marry her—I’m going to broach the subject of the solid black wedding band, or, the wedding band with a majority of black trim clearly visible to the public.  I don’t know who started this ‘social trend’ but there is danger written all over it.

      I recently ran into a young man who displayed such a band while we were at my local barber shop.  I saw his black wedding band and showed him my gold wedding band.  My rationale for calling this to his attention was simple: “Young man, marriage should be gone into as a celebration, not as a time for sadness.”  He seemed a little surprised at my assessment.  I trust that he ‘got it’.  It is my prayer that some of you other brothers ‘get it’ and go back and swap out the black band for a gold one.  I also pray that my older warriors on the marriage field pass on such wisdom to younger men that they know.

      Including young Pastors.

      Marriage between one man and one woman was designed by God as a celebration, not a time for misery.  IF you choose right, it WILL be right!  In the words of Pastor Tony Evans: “If you treat your wife like a thoroughbred, she won’t end up being a nag”.  Wearing a black wedding band, in my view, is letting the world know that a brother is not putting much joy nor effort into the relationship—especially when he flashes ‘the coal’ in public. 

      Further, it opens him up for ‘propositioning’ from the neighborhood Lolitas and tramps.

      Am I getting through to the brotherhood?  Shout AMEN, somebody!

      There are MORE than enough problems in this old, sin-sick world.  A quick scan of your favorite news offerings or social media outlets will clearly open your eyes.  The attack on marriage, the home, and the family—as God intended them to be—has been going on since the Garden of Eden.  Satan has no new tricks, but he does have new ways to bring them to public light. 

      In my view, the black wedding band is just the latest ‘attack’ tactic.  Pastors, PLEASE be on the lookout for this ‘marital impostor’ when it comes time for pre-marital counseling.  As a matter of fact, if you see a potential bride willing to possibly wear a black wedding band herself, PLEASE advise her to come to her senses and get a gold band.

      Why start off a marriage in the negative?  A gold band is a major positive, AMEN?

      I might as well bring this up.  I find it highly amusing that those who ‘mock’ marriage with the black band gimmick are the SAME ones who—IF they are married—expect their marriages to be able to survive satanic attack.  Balderdash!  IF one is quick to attack YOUR marriage, they should NOT be shocked when their marriage, home and kids come under attack from someone else.  To me, this is kinda like the Abortion on Demand issue—where those who are pro-murder (pro-choice) will urge others to kill THEIR kids—but expect us to ‘get excited’ when their kids do well in school, or, when pro-murder women get pregnant and are ‘expecting’.

      But I digress.

      Brothers, take a tip from ‘A Certified Old Guy’.  Show your wife and your marriage the proper respect.  Ditch the black wedding band.  Go gold—or don’t be shocked when she ain’t at home!

      Mike Ramey is a Retired Minister, KJV Bible Teacher, syndicated columnist and Bible Prophecy Specialist who lives in Indianapolis, Indiana.  “The Quick Scan” is one of a variety of his columns appearing and abounding in print and cyberspace, written from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective since 1996.  To drop him a line—or a whine—the address is still the same:  ©2023 Barnstorm Communications International.

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Rev. M. G. “Mike” Ramey (Retired) served as the Certified Modern Street Gangs Specialist & Media Consultant of “The Gang Line”. He had been interviewed in the U. S. and abroad on radio, television, and Internet about the dangers of Modern Street Gangs since 2007. His writings on Modern Street Gangs abound in print and online. Previously, he served as an award-winning broadcast journalist, producer, and TV/Radio talk show host. He has also served as a staff writer, section editor, and syndicated columnist. Ramey has won—or helped to win—some two dozen journalism awards and citations. He also holds a Police Citation for Citizen Bravery from the Indianapolis Police Department (1986). Ramey is also married, an Ordained Minister (Retired) and a KJV Bible Teacher.

Ramey is a Certified Modern Street Gangs Specialist with Certifications in Law Enforcement (2006), Non-Law Enforcement (2010), and Gangs & Cults Ministry (2017). He also has endorsements in K-12 Gang Issues and Transnational Gangs. He also carries Specialist Ratings in Cult/Occult Crime, and Transnational Human Trafficking. Ramey has also served with several International anti-gang ministries, including of Washington state (2004-2009), Thug Exposed Ministries of California (2010 to 2015) and Bishop Outreach Ministries of Florida (2010 to 2015).

In 2011 “The Gang Line” offered training and certification coursework for those interested in becoming certified Modern Street Gang Specialists: Training approaches the anti-gang ministry field through the combined use of spiritual (biblical principles/discipleship) and criminal (gang members and gang crime). From 2015-2017, Ramey served as an Advisory Board Member for the School of Criminal Justice at Harrison College, Indianapolis, Indiana, with a specialty of Organized Crime & Gangs. From 2017-2019, Ramey served as a Bible Teacher to at-risk detained juvenile offenders at the Marion County Juvenile Detention Center with his own Bible-based Curriculum centering upon Biblical Life Skills taught from the Book of Proverbs.

Rev. Ramey’s skill set includes having been a veteran substitute teacher (Secondary Education), a college instructor for two Bible colleges in the Indianapolis, Indiana area, a Probation Officer (Intensive/High Risk & School-Based) with the Marion County Juvenile Court, and a peer grant reviewer of anti-gang grant programs with the U.S. Department of Justice (2010). He also created, designed, and taught the course “Modern Street Gangs: Developing Urban Ministry Strategies—UM-190” at Crossroads Bible College, Indianapolis, Indiana (2009 & 2010). In 2013, Ramey served as a post-production Consultant for Chick Publications’ national anti-gang comic: “Black Angel”. It was translated into Spanish in 2014.

Ramey has written extensively on the topic of Modern Street Gangs with two Internet columns: “The Gang Line” and “The Gang Line Blogger” which abound in cyberspace. In a post-pandemic society, the motto of The Gang Line still rings true: “Spiritual Solutions for Spiritual Problems!”

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