I get emails from all over the world. It was no surprise when I received an email with a photo attached. Happy, shiny Black couple beaming from the base of the Eifel Tower. They were in Paris. I deleted it. Photo proof that another girl was living the dream, offered to me, but in my stubborn mind had cast to the side.
One cold day when I was living on the East Coast a few years ago a very good Black man came to me, out of the blue, and said, “I’m going to marry. I’m considering










