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REAL MEN DON’T NAG

      The time seems right to address this topic, considering what men have been facing.  But first, let me start off from the top of the deck.  Some of my male friends who are married have mostly daughters, and few-to-no sons.  Now, I’ve noticed something about these brothers, when it comes to relating to and talking with other brothers—there seems to be a little nagging in their voices.

      Maybe, they are upset because they haven’t been blessed with sons.

      Maybe, they are envious of the brothers who have a ‘quiver full’ of boys in the home.

      Maybe, they are men who are easily manipulated by the fairer sex.

      Among the brothers whom I know that have mostly daughters, or, they themselves who have ‘grown up’ with a lot of sisters in the home and few brothers, I have noticed that these men are quite content to have women ‘insert themselves’ in male professions.  Take the ministry for example.  Why are there so many women pastors and preachers these days—even though such a thing is clearly against the teaching of the KJV Bible (I Timothy, Chapter 2)?  Easy.  In my humble opinion, some of the men involved in the selection process are surrounded by women in their home—and don’t see any reason why this should not be extended to the church house.

      Brothers, raising a daughter to be a son won’t cut it.

      Look at the current advertising scene.  How many commercials have we seen; how many little ‘drama’ plays have we watched on social media where the father is teaching his daughter how to paint a fence, change the oil on the family car, or work a construction job?  Sure, it’s nice for a girl to know how to do ‘the little things’ in life…but she was designed to be a wife, mother, and support for a home—not a builder of it!  A woman’s hands were designed to rock a cradle, NOT to build it.  Call me what you want…but don’t shout me down when I’m preaching truth!

      Look at the schoolhouse.  More women teachers and administrators and few men in the faculty ranks.  Year after year we hear a bag of excuses as to why more men aren’t recruited to be teachers.  Thus, when the women can’t handle the antics of their male students, they ‘search out’ for the closest man to make these boys ‘snap to’ for the female in charge—and are upset when they can’t find one.  (Things are now so bad in the schools that the female teachers can’t handle female students—as their disciplinary problems are rising…but this is another story for another day).

      And we wonder why there are soooo many he-women and she-men in our society today?

      What point am I attempting to get across the plate in my column this time around?  A man either surrounded by women in his home, or, who has been raised/surrounded by women in his upbringing—and has NOT learned how to have a ‘band of brothers’ with whom he can celebrate being a man, should he reach a position of authority will have problems in communicating with his brothers—unless and until he remembers that nagging and shaming will not enrich his manhood.

      I dare say that a man who seeks to nag or shame other men to seek compliance, or cooperation in completing any type of work isn’t going to be counted as much of a man at any time.  Nagging and shaming are women’s tools—not meant for a man’s tool kit.  Women are built for feeling and emotion.  Men are built for logic and challenge.  This is the way God hardwired the two sexes (John 3:30 KJV).  Any time—for whatever reason—that each sex ‘attempts’ to adopt the mental toolkit of the other to try to communicate with others in our society will find difficulty (Titus 2:1-8 KJV).

      Women who like to act like ‘tomboys’ will eventually be ignored by other women—and men.  Further, men who try to act more female will eventually be ignored by other men—and manipulated by other women against weak men.  We see this playing out in our modern society abundantly in our present age.

      Bottom line?  Real men don’t nag or shame other men openly.  That’s a woman’s trick.

      If a man has a disagreement with another man—contrary to what we see in social media or in the entertainment/sports kabal—they will find a way to take care of the matter in private, away from the bright lights of the public.  That’s the way it MUST work, IF you want to reach a brother and encourage him to be a better man, instead of a bitter one.

      During my teaching days, I had few problems with the young men under my charge.  If they got out of line with me, they knew what to expect—a write up and a trip to the detention room or main office.  If they wanted to get physical, I promised it would be the last decision they would make while they were conscious.  In short, there were many more times I had to take young brothers aside—brothers that their female teachers had ‘written off’ as disciplinary problems—and remind them why they were in school and remind them what was awaiting them out in the streets of real life.  Their skin color didn’t matter.  The fact that I, as an older man, came at them ‘straight up’ and was secure in my own position as teacher—and reminded them that they would eventually have to grow up and become men did more to make them WANT to become quality men.

      My walk squared with my talk.  Even when—years later—I met some of them as adults.  They knew that I knew what I was talking about, even though at the time they didn’t understand it all while they were in school.  Those whom I have met as adult men thanked me for being honest and disciplined with them.  One of these young men decided to enter the teaching profession as he headed to college and on down the road to adulthood.

      Politicians and businessmen have spent so much time trying to please the ‘fruit loops’ of society that they have forgotten that MOST of the men who are on the job, in the shop, on the gridiron or in the hood are normal, God-fearing, and hard-working regular brothers.  Men weren’t built to ‘sway in the wind’ to the breezes of estrogen. They were infused with testosterone for a reason…and their season!

      They have testosterone for a reason.  Some of those men in leadership today need to see IF they still have testosterone in themselves.  In times of competition, national calamity, or downright trouble, a real man will surface, stand his ground, chart his course and see who has the strength to stand shoulder-to-shoulder with him to fight the battles life has in store.

      This is what constitutes a REAL man.  Weak, feminized men need not nag—nor apply.

      Mike Ramey is a Retired Minister, KJV Bible Teacher, syndicated columnist and Bible Prophecy Specialist who lives in Indianapolis, Indiana.  “The Quick Scan” is one of a variety of his columns appearing and abounding in print and cyberspace, written from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective since 1996.  To drop him a line—or a whine—the address is still the same: mgmikeramey@yahoo.com.  ©2024 Barnstorm Communications International.