The Quick Scan by Mike Ramey




     I’ve been checking out some of the ‘relationship’ advice blogs and videos on social media and, quite frankly, have not been all that impressed with the content and the direction.  Suffice it to say that God has been left out of many a relationship equation.  Without God’s involvement, and heeding the KJV Scriptures, a house will not become a home.

      Always aim for God’s perfection in building solid relationships. He’s all in.  Are you?

      Let me state up front that I’ve had my share of ‘ups-and-downs’ when it comes to relationships.  I’m no expert, nor do I pretend to be.  I give advice based upon the Word of God and what I have observed and lived through in this thing called life.  You are always free to take my advice—or not.  However, I have learned the second time around to let God lead me in my marital relationship because I am a Christian, and so is my wife.  It does matter and make a difference where you BOTH are spiritually at the beginning of any relationship.  Further, at the risk of irritating some who may be reading this column, the Bible itself maintains that Christians should NOT marry non-Christians.  If you cannot marry a non-Christian, brothers, then you should NOT bother dating non-Christians, regardless of how much ‘social media’ you see.

      Many of the ‘relationship’ experts don’t have great track records.  Why listen to someone give advice about relationships IF they have a string of broken relationships?  Check their ‘RR’ (Relationship Resume) before you ask them to advise you.  How many breakups, divorces, or OOW kids do THEY have?  Have THEY learned from THEIR mistakes and sins?

      How do the ‘relationship’ experts handle the subject of God and the KJV Scriptures?  It is a FACT that those men and women who have a solid relationship with God and follow the teachings of the Bible have stronger and better relationships than the general population.  Think I’m making this up?  Have the courage to do your OWN homework.  A ‘relationship’ expert who makes a mockery of God, let alone lives a life of debauchery and fornication themselves is hardly a person I would trust to give me ANY kind of advice.

      As we wrap up part one of this pep talk, brothers, here are a few items you need to remember:

      *Men LEAD; Women FOLLOW.  Open her door. Treat her like a lady! No Booze!

     *IF she always wants to fight you and loves to cuss you—she is NOT for you!  WALK!

     *Brother, YOU pick up the check when you take her out. You ASKED her, remember?

     *Brother, LISTEN and OBSERVE everything she does when she is with you.

     *Lastly, save the sex for marriage---a real woman WILL respect you for this!

      Mike Ramey is a Retired Minister, KJV Bible Teacher, syndicated columnist and Bible Prophecy Specialist who lives in Indianapolis, Indiana.  “The Quick Scan” is one of a variety of his columns appearing and abounding in print and cyberspace, written from a biblical, business, and common-sense perspective since 1996.  To drop him a line—or a whine—the address is still the same:  ©2023 Barnstorm Communications International.

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Ramey is married and resides in Indianapolis, Indiana. He is a Christian, an Ordained Minister and KJV Bible Teacher. Since the 1980s, Ramey has won--or helped to win--multiple journalism awards and citations (including 3 CASPER awards). He holds a Police Citation for Citizen Bravery from the Indianapolis Police Department (1986) presented by the late Mayor William H. Hudnut III, and an award as ‘Best New Internet Writer’ (2003) “Black Men In” from Mr. Gary Johnson, Publisher.

His career also includes serving as an award-winning broadcast reporter, producer and TV/Radio talk show host in the Indianapolis market since 1981. In addition, Ramey has served as staff writer and section editor for The Indianapolis Recorder, and a freelancer for The Indiana Herald. Ramey has also served as a guest Op-Ed writer for The Indianapolis News, a staff writer for The Indianapolis Star, and a freelancer for BOTH The Associated Press and USA Today Newspaper (Gannett).

In business as an Anti-Gang Specialist & Consultant since 2007, Ramey is the Modern Street Gangs Specialist of “The Gang Line”. He has been interviewed in the U.S. and abroad on the dangers of Modern Street Gangs. Ramey is a Certified Modern Street Gang Specialist, with Law Enforcement (2006), Non-Law Enforcement (2010) and Gangs & Cults (2017) certifications, plus endorsements in K-12 Gang Issues (2010) and Transnational Gang Tactics (2010). He has held workshops, trainings and consultations with and for street-level/school-based personnel. He carries Specialist ratings in the area of Cult/Occult Crime, Transnational Human Trafficking and has served as a national/transnational consultant to various faith-based anti-gang ministries.

Ramey has also served as a veteran substitute licensed teacher (1986-2011), a college instructor, a Probation Officer (Intensive/High Risk & School-Based 2001-2007) with the Marion County Juvenile Court and a peer grant reviewer of anti-gang grant programs for the U.S. Department of Justice (2010). He also created, designed and taught the course UM-190 “Modern Street Gangs: Developing Urban Ministry Strategies” in 2009 and 2010 at Crossroads Bible College, Indianapolis, Indiana for those who desired to serve Jesus Christ in an Urban Ministry environment. Ramey also served as a post-production consultant for Chick Publications’ anti-gang comic: “Black Angel”. It had a 2013 national release, with an international Spanish-language version released in 2014.

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